Sunday, April 29, 2007

Keep Your Relationship Romantic

Rediscover the early months of any relationship where everything is wonderful and the entire first year or two can be a walk in the park .But sooner or later, the romance and warm fuzzies that you had at the beginning fade away and are replaced by cold, hard life.

First of all, there is no romance if you can't have communication. It doesn't have to be verbal, just a simple loving glance or a kiss goodbye will suffice. In many cases, even simple gestures like these have vanished from long-term relationships. Smiling at your spouse in the morning over coffee will do wonders. So will kissing him or her goodbye or even leave a short love note in one' briefcase.

Love takes effort and so does romance. You can boost your romantic level by simply saying "I love you", words that probably slipped out of your mouth frequently in bygone eras! Try to make it a habit to tell your partner that you love them a minimum of three times a day. It's not hard at all. Just once afte ryou have woken up, when you meet after work and finally before you go to bed. If you can throw those three valuable words in there at other times of the day as well, go for it! We all need to hear that we are loved.

Avoid fighting in your free time. Finding time alone can be very hard, especially if you have children, so don't ruin it by bringing up problems you have with the other person. If you are annoyed that your husband left his shoes in the middle of the hall for the umpteenth time, wait until he is about to do it again to remind him gently where they actually belong. And if your wife prepares that mushroom dish that you hate so much, don't comment on it while you are having a date night! Spending this time talking about more constructive things will greatly help your relationship.

Have some cuddle time. Sometimes just being on the couch together can do wonders for boosting the romantic connectio.

Take a vacation. Most of the time a weekend off from work and the kids will do;it doesn't have to be a romantic second honeymoon to Hawaii or Fiji. Find a cozy Bed and Breakfast out of town and relax . . . together. Both of you will benefit from the downtime and this will reflect in your everyday actions toward each other.

TLC is highly under-rated. Why shouldn't you kiss or hold hands in public, or in front of your kids? You are not only proving your love to each other, but to the world. And while you certainly don't want to start undressing each other in front of the kids, they will learn positive things from seeing that their parents are still in love!

Romance takes some effort and upkeep. If you ignore it or put it on the back burner, you will most certainly lose it, so take up the challenge and do something today to rekindle the romance in your relationship.

Saturday, April 28, 2007

You may be in love if...

One of the most common human experiences that two or more (depending on how ambitious you are) people can share is love. But, it’s not always easy to tell if you are in like, lust or full blown, forever loving. With that in mind, I’ve created this list of signs that you may be crazy in love!

1. If you’ve ever stared deeply into the eyes of your significant other for more than 10 seconds without cracking up hysterically you may be in love.

2. If every person in your life tells you that she/he’s no good and you’re mailman, pharmacist and local news station agrees, yet you think they are just jealous you may be in love.

3. Guys: if you’ve taken the pictures of the other women in you’re life off the walls, like the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition posters, Playmate of the month calendar, Monster Truck Rally 2005 you may be in love.

4. Ladies: men can produce excessive amounts of eye watering, nose burning noxious odor from almost any food or drink, and then aren’t above sharing it with others, especially at night. Knowing all this, and you STILL want to sleep in the same bed with him you may be in love.

5. If your significant other asks you how they look in their new retro polyester lime green outfit and you say they look hot you may be in love. or you have a really strong self preservation instinct.

6. Guys: if you’ve ever given up washing and waxing that new car you just bought to watch Sleepless in Seattle with you’re girlfriend/wife for the 20th time you may be in love.

7. If you always remember every anniversary and birthday of your partner, and you’re not female you may be in love.

8. If you think the underwear and socks you get for your birthday and Christmas every year is a pleasant surprise you may be in love.

9. If you thought the Sears Tool Set and rolling cabinet you got for your birthday was great idea, and you’re not male ... you may be in love.

10. If you are taken to Burger King for a romantic dinner, and that doesn’t bother you you may be in love.

11. If you notice your local florist starts arriving at work in a limo since you became a customer ... you may be in love

12. If hearing "Honey, wheres my clean underwear?" brings tears of joy to your eyes ... you may be in love

But the easiest way to tell if you are in love is this: If there is no one on this planet that you would rather spend everyday of your life with than the one you are with, then you ARE in love!

Friday, April 27, 2007

8 Amazing Ways To Make A Woman Laugh

There are many men that want to make a woman laugh when they are around each other. This is a good way to make things more comfortable and to ease the tension between yourself and the woman you like. This will help both of you feel good in each other's company and it will make it easier to be around each other.

Be sure that you are being a little silly and giving your best when it comes to making them laugh. If you can learn how to make a woman laugh, you will be able to make friends with more women!

1. Jokes are a great choice to make a woman laugh.

This is a good second way to make a woman smile. You should think about the jokes that you are telling them. Be careful and do not go over board with the jokes that you tell. You want to be careful because you do not want to offend your girl.

2. Be you.

You will be surprised at what you can do with your own personality. Do not be afraid to be whom you are and you will be surprised at what will happen. You should not be afraid to do the things that you always do. You want to feel comfortable and be who you are with each other. You will be amazed at the fun that you will have because you are going to be able to express who you are and not worry about hiding anything from her. The laughs are sure to come when can feel comfortable with you and who you are.

3. Make things a little brighter when you are around each other.

Making the woman laugh can make the entire atmosphere a lot better for the both of you to be around. You will want to make them laugh about the things that you do. This is a very easy conversation that you can come up with so that you are making her laugh at you and the things that you do.

4. You can joke about a movie or television show that is on.

When you are watching a movie together, you can make the mood a little lighter if you make a joke about the characters or something on the screen. This is something that is easy to do and you will be able to make them laugh and feel good about being around you. This is a sure fire way to make the mood a little lighter and to get things rolling along.

5. You may want to try and tell a joke about life.

If you have made a mistake in life or done something that you think is silly, you can use this as a topic to make a joke about. It is not always a good idea to make you the blunt of the joke. You may want to keep it light and do not focal too much on the bad. Just pick something small and use this to make a great joke about what you did.

6. Do not make it a point to talk about someone else.

If there is something funny about someone or what they did, you can use this as a joke but you should not put too much attention on it. You do not want to make someone else look bad because this can make you look like a bad person and this is not the way that you want to make them laugh at all.

7. Do a funny dance or something that involves physical activity.

You should do something that makes you look good but will bring a smile to a woman's face. This can be anything that you want as long as you do not hurt yourself or someone else. You can dance or jump around and do funny faces to make them laugh. This will show your personality and make a woman see whom you are inside and out.

8. Have a great time.

This is the one piece of advice that you can use for any woman and any reason. You should take the time to make every moment last. You want to make the woman feel like they are comfortable with you so that they can laugh with you and have good time like you have intended for them. You will see how fast she gets to be comfortable with you and how she will laugh at all the things that you want her to.

Wednesday, April 25, 2007

Why Women are Frequently Attracted to Older Men. (The Sugar Daddy Phenomenon)

It's true to say that many young men, on reaching the age in their lives when pubescence takes control of their lateral thinking, find themselves fantasizing about older females, often twice their own age and upwards. For instance it's quite common for young men still at school age, testosterone flying everywhere, to have the 'hots' for one or more of their female teachers, neighbor's wife or even a pal's mother.

The consensus of opinion reached by many is that the attraction by a young male to a more mature woman is based around the fact that she has experience.. a working knowledge of the male anatomy, and a sexual prowess not to be discovered so easily in a younger woman his own age.

Although there are exceptions, in the majority of cases, his secret lusting remains just that, and goes unnoticed by the older female who still regards him as a young student or friend of her son.

Howerever, as the young male grows older, and gains his own level of experience, so his desire for the mature female wanes, and on reaching middle age, will frequently have his head 'turned' by a much younger woman.

All this is in stark contrast to the attraction patterns noted in the life of the female of the species. Whereas the young girl, on first becoming sexually aware, will hone her intimacy skills on the younger male, but she will often be less interested in him as she gets older, turning her attention to the more mature men that cross her path. But why is this the case?

The Sugar Daddy Phenomenon, whilst oftentimes the source of amusement for some, can in fact develop into quite a powerful relationship, with loyalty, romance and chivalry being key factors in the union. Many women note that a guy around her own age or younger, will not show her the same level of respect, or pay as much attention to detail that his older counterpart will be inclined to display.

It's a valid point that women are more mature than men at any given age, and its not surprising that by the time she reaches her mid-thirties, she already feels more compatible with a male ten or twenty years her senior, and left guys her own age, far behind both mentally and emotionally. Her more mature partner is more equipped to seduce her mind as well as her body. He will be less afraid of showing attention in public, holding her hand or opening doors for her. Happy to allow the whole world notice how proud he is to have her by her side.

Sexually too, he may not be an athlete between the sheets, yet he will feel the need to ensure his girl is pleasured well as a priority over seeking to satisfy his own desires. Her younger lover will no doubt give her "the best seventeen seconds she's ever had", before raiding her fridge in search of a beer. Whereas in the case of her older partner, the foreplay will begin in the bar or restaurant with witty flirting, eye contact and laughter. Later they will enjoy the afterglow together, and whilst the passion may have subsided, the emotion still very much alive.

The term 'Sugar Daddy' was first used in the early 1920's and is described in the WordWeb Dictionary as "A wealthy older man who gives a young person expensive gifts in return for friendship or intimacy". The sugar in this term alluded to the sweetening effect of the gifts, and daddy cited the age difference between the pair. There is no mention of love, romance or indeed a relationship in the dictionary description of the term, yet it is a fact that women are often attracted, even turned on by men of substance or power. Is it so inconceivable then, that a younger woman could find happiness in a relationship with a guy old enough to be her father, who has so much more to offer her than money and gifts?

Sunday, April 22, 2007

Sweet Nothings

Words whispered into your lover’s ears will have a wonderfully stimulating effect. Due to the fact that the ears are full of nerve endings, whispering sweet nothings will not only bring pleasure in response to your sugary words, but will excite the erogenous zones.

Sweet nothings are words that are full of love and romance, gently whispered into your lover’s ears. Women respond greatly to sweet nothings and having their necks kissed. When cuddling and embracing, try adding sweet nothings to increase and heighten the romantic atmosphere. Gently blowing in the ears, and whispering will bring arousal and pleasure, and is an important aspect of foreplay. Not only can you whisper in the ears, but also try kissing, licking, and sucking on earlobes for added excitement. If you have always wanted to whisper sweet nothings in your lover’s ears, but didn’t’ know what to say, here are some romantic quotations and phrases that you can use.

Sweet Nothings:

• You have captured my heart
• Hear my words as I tell you how much I love you
• You are the only one for me
• You’re beautiful
• The night belongs to us alone
• You’re lips are as red as the most vibrant rose
• You’re hair is softer than the finest silk
• You’re eyes sparkle brighter then the stars
• I’m yours forever
• I’ll never stop loving you
• You are always on my mind
• I can’t stop thinking of you
• You have filled the void in my heart
• You complete me
• My love for you will burn forever
• My heart beats for you
• I’m hungry for you love
• Only your kisses satisfy my soul
• Can you feel my passion
• Don’t you know I long for you
• You’re the lover of my soul
• I crave your touch
• My heart longs for you
• You are my desire
• I will never love another
• You are breath taking
• You take my breath away
• You are an angel from heaven
• I give you my heart, forever
• When we touch I melt in your arms
• I long to taste the sweetness of your lips
• Your love is better than wine
• I am drunk with your love
• I am honored to be loved by you
• I adore you
• I desire your embrace
• Hold me close and never let me go
• You are my one true passion
• I am passionately in love with you
• I long to caress you
• My heart belongs to you
• I can’t stop thinking of you
• Your love is the drink that quenches my soul
• You satisfy me
• I hunger for your touch
• I need you, now

Using any of these phrases or coming up with your own will have excellent results. Though women may differ in regards to how much they like their ears kissed or nibbled on, all women respond to sweet nothings.

Wednesday, April 18, 2007

What is Love ?

  • Passionate love which involves continuously thinking about the loved one and also involves warm sexual feelings and powerful emotional reactions.
  • Companionate love is having trusting and tender feelings for someone who is close to you.


The three components of the Triangular Theory of Love are:

Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone.

Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.

Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time).

Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.

Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship.

Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.

Now Sternberg also uses his Triangular Theory of Love to answer some of the most commonly asked questions about love:

Is there love at first sight?

This is when we are overwhelmed by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take time). Sternberg calls this infatuated love, Because there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade away.

Why do some people get married after being in love for a very short time?

This is a combination of passion and commitment, but without any intimacy. Sternberg calls this Hollywood love. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship most likely will end.

Can their be love without sex?

Ah yes, companionate love, where intimacy and commitment are present without any sexual passion.

Why doesn't romantic love last?

Passion and intimacy without commitment is Romantic love. When the passion fades, and the intimacy wanes, the relationship ends.

This a close friend sent me e-mail:

Infatuation vs. Love

Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another.

Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away. Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying. But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait.

Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing them."

Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."

Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.

Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship, which makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.

Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if they're cheating. Sometimes, you check.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.

Love is an upper. It makes you feel whole. It completes the circle. It fills the empty space in your heart. Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there is has a lot less meaning.

The secret of our being is not only to live but to have something to live for.

Monday, April 2, 2007

Dating Tips And How To Coax A Smile From Any Woman?

How does one coax a smile from a woman?

It takes but little gestures of tenderness and thoughtfulness to make a woman smile. Knowing that she is loved and appreciated is enough to coax the most beautiful smile from her lips.

Yet, how does one show a woman how much he cares? Below is a list of ways to make a woman smile.

1.Say, “I love you” and really mean it. This is the best way to make a woman smile. You will not only get a smile if you do this, you could also get a kiss.

2.Remember those occasions, which are important to her and give her a surprise. Women would always feel important if you remember the things that are important to her. Catch her off guard and make her smile.

3.Be nice to her friends. Women love to bond with their friends once in a while and they also want to bring their mates with them too so don’t even try to bail out if she asks you to go with her to meet her girl friends.

She loves to show you off and she can’t begin to tell you how important it is for her that you are nice to her friends so don’t put her off.

4.Take her on a dinner date in an outdoor restaurant on a starry night. Eating under the stars would definitely make her smile.

5.Take her for a moonlight walk at the beach. Women love romance so indulge her.

6.Write her a poem and read it to her while you snuggle by the fireplace.

7.Surprise her with a breakfast in bed complete with flowers. Breakfast in bed is one of the best ways to make a woman feel pampered.

8.If you have a good voice, sing her a love song. But if your voice isn’t so good, just forget it. You will only embarrass her if you do.

9.Paint her face. If you can’t draw a single line, get someone to do it for you.

10.Get her a puppy. You’ll probably get a lot of hugs and kisses aside from that lit up the whole room smile.

11.Give her flowers. No woman could resist those lovely blooms and the fragrant smell.

12.Buy her chocolates. Women love chocolates.

13.If you can afford it, buy her diamonds. No woman could ever resist the sparkles of diamonds.

14.Take her on a cruise to the Caribbean. This will probably cost you a little fortune but hey, you do want to make her happy don’t you?

15.Give her a gift certificate to a spa. Your woman deserves some pampering and the spa could help her unwind.

There are a number of ways to make a woman smile and these don’t really have to expensive or difficult. All it really takes is to make her feel really special.