Saturday, January 27, 2007

What Attracts Women To Men

Some guys get all the women. Others get snubbed. Why the difference? What do women really want.Take a look at romance novels. The hero is always an alpha male. Submission guidelines for romance novels by publishers place huge emphasis on the hero.He must be someone the reader, presumably a woman, can fall in love with. He must be primarily an Alpha male. Meaning, he's the leader of the group. Not a wannabe or second in command. He carries himself with confidence. Men look up to him. Women fall at his feet.Appearance-wise, invariably, he is lean and muscular with broad shoulders. The kind of body a guy gets from a healthy lifestyle with regular gym workouts. He is strong, yet treats his woman with tenderness.He is not afraid to pursue his woman. Now tread carefully here. There's a fine line between what's acceptable and what's stalker behaviour. Also, there are similarities between romance novel heros and the serial killers in horror stories. What she reads can influence her reaction to your behaviour. Pay attention to the books she reads. If she's into crime stuff, pursuing her relently and showing up at her workplace to court her can cause her to panic, making her think more stalker than Romeo. If it is romance novels she reads, surprising her with a huge bouquet of roses at her workplace and serenading her at outside her home will probably leave her starry eyed, or at least get her to notice you in a positive light.What can you do?The easiest thing you can do to increase your attractiveness to women is to head for the gym at least thrice a week and work out with the maximum weights you can handle. Build your body and the women would notice. From shoulders, to arms, to abs, to butt, to thighs. Women like men with muscles. Go easy on the beer. Apparently, romance novels typically have heros with muscled abs and no flab. Think that is too much? What do women do to attract men? Plastic surgery, boob jobs, starvation diets just to look attractive to men. At least men don't have to survive on lettuce leaves and have balloons inserted into their chests to attract the opposite sex.Beyond the physical appearance, a man's character counts. The way he treats others. A caring man is more appealing than a selfish lout. Okay, the Rhett Butler types appeal to romance readers but in real life?Carry yourself with confidence. Stand tall. Aspire to be the best you can be in all ways. A positive attitude shows. Keep your cool when others blow up. Your self control gives you the edge and women notice such things. One of the differences between the alpha whom women swoon over and the asshole who turns off the women is not the appearance but the attitude. A guy who growls all the time and blows up at the slightest provocation and is so full of himself is an asshole. A guy who fights for the rights of those under his protection, who takes responsibility for his own actions, who is incredible patient and has great self control is the alpha. The smart girls can tell the difference, but the naive ones usually can't. Still, if you want your pick of the women, better be an alpha than an asshole.Sometimes a man may attract women for no obvious reason at all. The attraction could happen at a chemical level. Humans like animals secrete pheromones. These are sensed in a subconscious level. Contrary to popular belief, pheromones are odorless, though they are sometimes mixed into perfumes for that sex appeal effect. If you want to go all out to attract women, you can resort to pheromones. Not by refusing to bathe, but by using a pheromone fragrances.

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